Divorce is never easy. There are good reasons you wish to divorce. but divorce rarely only involves one other person. While you may divorce your husband or wife, there is an entire social network that will be implicated in your divorce.
A woman writes of the time her former husband asked for 50/50 or shared custody of their children, she wanted to refuse him. She had received primary physical custody after their divorce. The girls were two and five, and he was not in a good place to care for them. But after the woman's father developed cancer, she needs the girl's father to help out getting the girls ready for daycare.
Visitation issues in divorce cases can be difficult. Visitation allows a non-custodial parent to have a reasonable amount of time with their child. Visitation rights are almost always granted unless there is showing of domestic violence or other abuse. And even if domestic violence has occurred, a Missouri court may find that visitation is in the best interests of the child.
Getting the most out of one's custody rights is important to many parents who find themselves at odds with a former partner over the issue of custody and visitation. As many readers know, just because one's relationship with one's partner falls apart, this does not mean the desire to be there for one's kids is diminished. Although it may be hard to understand, this is also true for those who have mistakes in their past and who have a history of abuse or domestic violence.
Divorce is an emotionally trying time for a man. After a divorce, men often feel a huge sense of loss, not only of their wives and families, but also of their sense of self. This in turn can lead to dangerous and destructive behaviors, which can harm them and have a serious impact on how the courts rule on child custody and visitation agreements.
For many Missouri fathers, adjusting to life after a divorce can be difficult. This is especially for dads who have to figure out how to connect with their kids if they have shared custody or perhaps only limited visitation rights.
We live in a society where people tend to bottle up their emotions. Especially when it comes to men, the idea of just sucking it up and getting through a tough emotional time is considered a norm. But, keeping emotions in during a divorce -- regardless of gender -- is dangerous and does not promote healthy healing.
Given the fact that grandparents play such a vital role in a child's life, in our last post we focused on why grandparents should maintain relationships with their ex-son-in-laws and ex-daughter-in-laws. This is not intended to create a rift between an adult child and their parent, but rather to strengthen the bonds and maintain visitation time with grandchildren after a divorce.