Divorce is never easy. There are good reasons you wish to divorce. but divorce rarely only involves one other person. While you may divorce your husband or wife, there is an entire social network that will be implicated in your divorce.
A woman writes of the time her former husband asked for 50/50 or shared custody of their children, she wanted to refuse him. She had received primary physical custody after their divorce. The girls were two and five, and he was not in a good place to care for them. But after the woman's father developed cancer, she needs the girl's father to help out getting the girls ready for daycare.
Visitation issues in divorce cases can be difficult. Visitation allows a non-custodial parent to have a reasonable amount of time with their child. Visitation rights are almost always granted unless there is showing of domestic violence or other abuse. And even if domestic violence has occurred, a Missouri court may find that visitation is in the best interests of the child.
Getting the most out of one's custody rights is important to many parents who find themselves at odds with a former partner over the issue of custody and visitation. As many readers know, just because one's relationship with one's partner falls apart, this does not mean the desire to be there for one's kids is diminished. Although it may be hard to understand, this is also true for those who have mistakes in their past and who have a history of abuse or domestic violence.
Many states have realized that, in some cases, divorces are going to be inevitable. There are laws around the country that make certain requests of people who are splitting up, such as abiding by a waiting period or seeking counseling. The effect of these is debatable, since both parties in a divorce are adults and should be able to understand the impact of their decisions.
When going through a divorce in Missouri, while a spouse will want to consult with an attorney, there may also be other experts involved in a divorce that can help sort out some key issues, like those related to child custody and spousal support. These experts can either be hired by the spouse going through the divorce, or be appointed by the court. An attorney can provide further information on what makes the most sense going forward.
Given the fact that grandparents play such a vital role in a child's life, in our last post we focused on why grandparents should maintain relationships with their ex-son-in-laws and ex-daughter-in-laws. This is not intended to create a rift between an adult child and their parent, but rather to strengthen the bonds and maintain visitation time with grandchildren after a divorce.
When adult children get divorced, grandparents often worry about what their role is going to be. Will they get to see their grandchildren as much? Will maintaining a relationship with an ex-son-in-law or ex-daughter-in-law seem like picking sides? How should grandparents talk to their grandchildren about the divorce?