During a divorce, spouses tend not to be on very good terms with each other, which is not unexpected given the circumstance. For most, much of the communication can be directed through their attorneys. If they have children, there may be some additional forced contact, during hand-offs with their child or children, but even there, their attorney can help them develop a routine to reduce the likely hood of conflict.
Child support payments are often a contentious subject for many couples involved in a divorce with children. While the amount of the child support payment is mechanical, in that the Missouri legislature has created a formula and there is a table that indicates the amount of support owed for a specific gross income.
Child support payments are unlike other types of family legal issues in that they are not resolved with a onetime agreement or transaction. Orders for child support can be in place for years or decades, making it very possible for changes and disputes to arise over time and upset a current arrangement.
When a couple divorces, they may have a great many things on their mind. Bitterness, frustration or other emotional upset over the ending of their marriage. Financial worries, with concerns over what their economic condition will look like after the divorce. If they have children, the details of their child custody arrangements, if they will receive or pay child support and how to deal with separate households with their kids.
In the United States, the custody situation has improved. Slowly, family law courts in Missouri are growing accustomed to the prospect of father's sharing equal rights with mothers after a divorce. While many judges still may have a bias towards mothers when it comes to child custody awards, and fathers have to aggressively assert their rights, the tide is beginning to shift.
Just across the river from St. Louis, in Illinois, divorce attorneys will have to speak to their clients differently. No more will they discuss child custody, but instead, the "allocation of parenting time and responsibility." Their clients will be referred to as "spouses" and not "husbands and wives," but rather "spouses."