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It's the conflict, not the divorce

19201252_S.jpgThere is always a great deal of concern for parents when it comes to divorce and their children. Many parents worry that their children will be "harmed" by divorce. There are many things that they may consider harm, from doing poorly in school to having a divorce of their own in the far distant future.

The divorce process is itself a great unknown, and until you have to experience it for yourself, you never really know what to expect. How long will it take, how expensive will it be, how much is your home worth, what will your parenting plan look like and more, are all questions that arise. The technical details can be complex, which is why most people rely on a divorce attorney to help them with the process.

Too much texting leads to divorce

13129917_S.jpgA report from Saudi Arabia describes the latest problem caused by technology. In this instance, it was texting. A bride and groom returned to their hotel room on their wedding night. The wife was responding to texts congratulating the new couple. The newly-minted husband asked her to stop and after becoming frustrated asked if the friends she was texting were more important than he was. She, annoyed by his question, said they were. Yelling and escalated arguments followed.

Lawyers were apparently called in and divorce proceeding commenced. Now, this may seem amusing, and it seems the couple may not have been well-suited for each other if this type of dispute arose on their wedding night, but these type of issues can destroy a relationship and a marriage.

How to tell your children you are divorcing

12940561_S.jpgDivorce is full of emotional events. From the first time the thought crossed your mind that you want to end your marriage, to the day you contacted a divorce attorney, until the day you receive the final order in your case from the Missouri family court, you will have to deal with various types of emotional tumult.

One of the most tumultuous may be when you tell your child or children of your decision. How you explain to a toddler will be very different from what you tell a teenager. Nevertheless, it is important to be honest. Your children observe you very closely every day and they will know if you are not being honest.

Does no-fault divorce need to be changed?

17970727_S.jpgNo-fault divorce is the standard method of obtaining a divorce. In Missouri, you can proceed with either a fault or a no-fault divorce. No-fault is often criticized for a range of societal problems from lowering the economic status of women to the fall of Western Civilization. Part of the problem may be that people tend to have short memories and see incidents with no-fault occurring today as somehow being uniquely troubled. 

In reality, there probably never was a "golden age," when divorces were always better. They may have been different, and some aspects of "fault" divorce may have seemed better when viewed through the perspective of the current day, but others were certainly far worse.

The unexpected relationship

35133752_S.jpgYou and your spouse simply can't live together. You divorce, and you both meet other people and eventually remarry. You had children together, so you will be tied together with that bond. Given that you are divorcing, you may see this as a significant disadvantage.

To begin with, it may be. It can be exceptionally difficult to separate your feelings from your marriage and your former spouse from what is best for your children. However, one couple found that while it is difficult, that achieving some degree of understanding and cooperation with your former spouse and his or her new partner can have surprising benefits.

The "sudden" decision to divorce

32821549_S.jpgDivorce can be a funny thing. One day, you may suddenly come to the realization that you want out of your marriage and you want a divorce. While the realization may arrive with surprising suddenness, the underlying motivational factors have probably been present for a long time.

You may have been married for many years and seemingly had a "successful" marriage. But over the years, you may have suffered many, repeated incidents that damaged your relationship. While any one of them may have been insignificant on their own, they may have created a pattern and practice that over time has become intolerable.

How unmarried fathers can secure custody rights

5789020_S.jpgIt is understandable that you may be intimidated by the prospect of seeking court intervention to have your rights to custody and parenting time recognized. After all, you may think that there is an inherent bias against men in family court. While some unscrupulous moms may want you to believe this myth, it is simply not true. As a father, you do have rights when it comes  to making parenting decisions. With unmarried fathers, however, there is a specific process that must be followed to have these rights recognized.

The experience of others in divorce

8001328_S.jpgOverconfidence bias can be a problem in many areas of life. Drivers often drive too fast or while intoxicated due to overconfidence bias, believing themselves to be highly-skilled drivers based purely on their, to that point in time, not having been involved in an accident.

If you have not been through a divorce in Missouri, you may think you understand the process and how it will all work. Maybe you have had a friend or acquaintance that has been divorced. If they have shared details of their case, you may have some insight into the process, but your experience will not be identical. Your spouse, judge, attorneys and you are all different and will lead to a different experience.