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Fathers' rights topic: Presumption of shared child custody

For decades, family courts in Missouri and around the country started child custody proceedings with the assumption that mothers were the best caretakers for their children. The fathers’ rights movement was created largely to combat this bias. Men who want to remain active in the lives of their children after divorce are not asking for special treatment, just equal treatment.

To combat mother bias (or any bias for that matter), a number of states are passing or considering legislation that would change the way courts approach child custody decisions. Rather than presuming that custody should automatically go to mothers or that one parent (of either gender) should have sole custody, an increasing number of courts are presuming from the beginning that shared custody is in the best interests of children.

Is there a connection between spousal age gap & risk of divorce?

8735954_S.jpgAmericans have a somewhat complicated relationship with statistics. They are often cited as the way to definitively end an argument by bolstering someone's assertions. Often, however, they become the argument, as people disagree on how statistics were collected and how they should properly be interpreted.

One of the biggest statistical "sins" that one can commit is to confuse correlation with causation. In other words, statistics can show that two or more things are related to one another, but that doesn't necessarily mean that one causes the other. This is a common problem when it comes to statistical studies about relationships, marriage and divorce.

How men can avoid some of the most common divorce mistakes: Part II

26856762_S.jpgEarlier this week, we began a discussion about common mistakes that men tend to make when getting a divorce. These were first shared on the lifestyle site AskMen.com.

Our last post focused on striking the right emotional balance and avoiding the traps of aggressiveness and passivity. Today's post will focus on strategic mistakes men commonly make during divorce.

How men can avoid some of the most common divorce mistakes: Part I

26856761_S.jpgMen and women tend to handle difficult situations in different ways, and that includes divorce. This means that each gender (generally speaking) has its own strengths and weaknesses when it comes to the messy and often-uncertain process of marital dissolution.

The lifestyle site AskMen.com recently posted a list of mistakes that men commonly make when going through divorce. In this week's posts, we'll discuss some of these common mistakes and how to avoid them.

Should you stay together for the kids? Not necessarily: Part II

11675918_S.jpgEarlier this week, we began a discussion about "staying together for the sake of the kids." Divorce is not an easy decision to make, particularly when you worry about how it will affect the children. This is an especially difficult decision in light of decades of studies showing the social, emotional, psychological and academic consequences that children can experience as a result of parental divorce.

That being said, it should be noted that these negative outcomes are not inevitable. And if the divorce is handled in a healthy, child-centered way, kids can actually be happier with divorced parents than with parents who stayed together for their sake. They may even grow up to thank their parents for making the difficult decision to get a divorce.

Should you stay together for the kids? Not necessarily: Part I

22029377_S.jpgDivorce has become commonplace in the United States, but that doesn't mean it has become easy - either logistically or emotionally. In fact, many couples struggle with doubts about whether they are doing the right thing by getting divorced, especially if they have children.

This has caused many couples to make a very difficult choice: Do we get divorced or do we stay together for the sake of the children? In this week's posts, we'll examine why staying together for the kids often ends up making everyone less happy - including the children.

'Gray divorce' and the risk to your retirement savings

25024654_S.jpgAs society changes, so do its family law trends. A lot of research in recent years has analyzed divorce rates among various groups of Americans. Through analysis of demographic data and other sources, an interesting trend has emerged. As of 2010, about one in four divorcees was age 50 or older.

"Gray divorce" is the term coined to describe the phenomenon of couples who dissolve their marriage later in life. There are many factors contributing to the trend, including longer average life expectancy, more dual-income households and a decreasing social stigma surrounding divorce in general.

High-asset divorce does not have to be a highly public event

30562070_S.jpgHigh-asset divorce tends to be more complicated than divorce among couples with more modest assets. The complications are due, at least in part, to the logistics of dividing up significant wealth and property. But high-asset divorces also tend to be complicated because they are usually high-profile as well.

Business professionals and other well-known individuals often want to keep their divorce and child custody negotiations discreet, and for good reasons. Any personal accusations made by a spouse in court filings could potentially leak out and cause damage to a person's business and his reputation - regardless of whether those accusations are true or false.

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